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I’m a writer living in Utah with my husband, sons Mason and Logan, and pug Willy. I’m an author, procrastinator, sports fan, list-maker,

food lover, car-singer, and most of all a work in progress.

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I believe you and I are enough and that we are beautiful just the way we are, but it wasn’t always that way. Here you’ll find blog posts about body positivity, resources that have helped me, and people I love who share messages I believe in.

 
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Stop hiding behind the camera (or the iPhone). Get in the pictures with your friends, your husband, your kids, your family. Take selfies or have strangers take pictures of you, because one day you're not going to remember or care how fat your thighs looked that day. 📷 One day all that is going to matter is that you have those photos as a precious reminder of all the good times and laughter and love you had in your life. At the end what size your jeans were or whether you found the perfect filter for your Instagram photo won't matter. 📸 Don't let your lack of self-love and confidence rob your future self of having those memories. Trust me, one day those photos will be some of your most prized possessions.
Yesterday my 4-year-old said to me, “You have 2 tummies Mom.” 🤦‍♀️ A year ago a comment like that would’ve gutted me. It’s probably not a stretch to say I would’ve cried about it. 😢 But now? I just laughed and we carried on with our conversation about private parts (because that’s what 4-year-olds want to talk about 🤷‍♀️). Because that little boy still loves me even if I do I have “2 tummies” and it doesn’t diminish who I am in anyway. It doesn’t make me any less beautiful or worthy. ❤️ And I’ll be damned if I’m going to teach my sons that there is something wrong with a soft stomach and some fat. They are learning about body acceptance and beauty from me, and as hard as it is sometimes I won’t let them hear me criticize my own body or anyone else’s.
Confessions from Your Fat Friend is now available! 🥳🎉 I poured my heart and soul into this book and I cannot wait for you to read it. Thank you all for your support and love. 🎉🍾 You can find all the links to buy it in the link in my bio. Happy reading!
This is my I'm-going-to-smile-so-I-don't-look-nervous face. I've been waiting for this day for months and now it's here. Confessions from Your Fat Friend will be out in the world in just a few short hours. Cue all the nervous screaming. 🥳 This book is different from my others. These are my personal stories, not something I made up in my imagination. This is my whole life ready for complete strangers to read about. And as much as that scares me, I am so proud of myself. 🥳 This book is going to change lives. Maybe it will be just one person, maybe it will be millions, but I know in my soul all those words have the power to help other people. People who feel like they don't fit in, people who feel like they are alone and will never be loved. People who think there is no possible way to love themselves. 🥳 So even though I'm nervous as hell to release this baby out into the world, I'm going to smile and be proud of what I've accomplished.
Lemons, curves same thing right? Life isn’t always going to be perfect, I think we’ve all figured that out by now. We can’t always control what happens in life but we can control how we react to it. We can control how we see things. ❤️ I could choose to continue seeing my body as something disgusting that deserves to be hated until I lose weight and meet some cultural standard for what is an acceptable body size or I could love myself, and these curves as I go through life. A life that may or may not include significant weight loss in the future. ❤️ Some will say loving my fat body is promoting obesity, I say life if too short to spend it making yourself miserable. There are way too many things I want to do with my life and time to allow room for things and people that only bring me down. ❤️ There is always a negative way to look at things but I’m choosing to make lemonade out of lemons and rock these curves like it’s the last thing I’ll ever do, because loving the journey is the only way to find happiness.
Nothing lasts forever. A year ago I had a 3-month-old baby who spit up constantly and it stressed me out, I was battling postpartum depression, I was wondering if my writing ability was ever going to come back and posting photos like this one pretending everything was awesome, when it wasn’t (and my poor curls were so sad back then). ✨ So much can happen in just a year. But it’s not going to happen if you don’t work for it or at the very least want it. I researched tirelessly to find a solution for that babies spit-up, sought help for my depression and turned my writing focus to something I was passionate about. It wasn’t easy but it was worth it. ✨ This is your life and it’s worth fighting for happiness. It’s worth taking risks and doing the hard things so a year from now you can look back and see how far you’ve come. Whether it’s changing jobs or finding self-love or implementing healthy habits none of it’s going to happen if you don’t start, nothing is going to change if you don’t.