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I’m a writer living in Utah with my husband, sons Mason and Logan, and pug Willy. I’m an author, procrastinator, sports fan, list-maker,

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I believe you and I are enough and that we are beautiful just the way we are, but it wasn’t always that way. Here you’ll find blog posts about body positivity, resources that have helped me, and people I love who share messages I believe in.

 
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I wrote a whole blog post about ways you can battle bad body image, but the most important part actually wasn't about getting over it at all. 🤷‍♀️ This is what it said. "One of the things that has helped me the most on my body positivity and self-love journey is allowing myself to feel those negative feelings and asking questions about where they come from. No one is going to feel confident and positive 100 percent of the time, and there is nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with admitting you’re not feeling it today. ✨ But I also believe there is so much power in asking questions about our emotions. Ask why, and keep doing it until you get to the bottom. It may be easy to answer the question, “Why do I feel bad about myself today?” In the past, my go-to answer to that question would’ve been, “Because I feel fat.” What if you kept going though? What if you kept asking questions like, “Why does being fat make me feel bad?” “Whose standards am I trying to live up to?” “Where are these feelings really coming from?” ✨ It might get a little uncomfortable, but sitting with those negative feelings and trying to really understand where they are coming from is such a powerful thing. For me, it helped me realize that I was feeling bad about myself because of impossible societal standards and the opinions of people I didn’t even care about. Knowing what is driving your negative emotions is way more powerful in feeling good about yourself than distraction ever will be.” ✨ How do you deal with bad body image days? I’d love to add some of your ideas to my post! (As always, link in bio)
Confession #18: I Eat in Secret So No One Can Shame Me 🙁 “If a tree falls in the forest and no one is there to heat it, does it still make a sound? If I eat and entire carton of ice cream but no one sees, did it really happen?” 🍨 Ahh food I couldn’t really write a book about being the fat friend without talking about eating could I? 🍪 “Just because I’m fat doesn’t mean I should have to live a boring life eating salads and green smoothies from now until the end of time. I shouldn’t have to apologize for wanting dessert every single day. I shouldn’t have to order the salad when I really want tacos just because I’m afraid of what people might think.” 🍩 Food and my struggles with it have been a big part of my life and it’s all documented in Confessions From Your Fat Friend. 🍔 But if I’m being honest, food is something I still struggle with on a regular basis. It’s something I’m actively working on but I’m just not there yet. I’m not quite ready to say I have a healthy relationship with food. I’m still working on breaking free from diet culture. The book might be finished but this is one chapter I’m still writing, because the journey is never really over.
There are only 6 weeks left until Confessions from Your Fat Friend is being released! It seems so close but still so far away. And I’ve still got a lot of work to do! ❤️ I am so unbelievably excited (and a little nervous) to put this book out into the world. I have literally poured my heart and soul into this book and I can't wait until you can all read it. ❤️ Preorders and all the details are available in the link in my bio.
If I stand all the way back here by this big wall and turn sideways and suck my stomach in maybe no one will notice how big I am. How fat I am. How much space my body takes up. I can't count how many times in my life I've had thoughts like that. How many times I've sucked in my stomach and held my breathe until the pictures were over. 📷 Let me stand in the back Let someone else be in the middle I'll squat down so I don't look as tall I'll take the picture so I don't have to be in it 📸 And when the picture doesn't turn out I'll just delete the evidence from my phone and no one will ever know the difference. Who can relate? 📷 How many memories and special moments have we deleted because we didn't look small enough? How many more have we edited, filtered and cropped just right so we look better? Don't feel bad I've done it too. My three-year-old loves taking my picture with my phone. He holds it up and tells me to say cheese with the biggest smile on his face, and then I delete every single one of them because I look too fat. 📸 But I don't want to just delete my memories anymore. I'm giving you and myself permission to show up in photos just the way you are right now. You don't have to make yourself smaller, you don't have to hide in the back or hold your breathe. This beautiful moment in time deserves to be documented even if you don't look "perfect". There is life to be lived and pictures to be taken and memories to be made, and none of them are going to wait for you to be ready. None of them are going to stop until you've reached your goal weight.
We don’t expect flowers to bloom all year long, so why do we expect ourselves to be on point, high-vibe, crushing life and blooming ALL THE TIME? 🌺 I’ve read this same sentiment multiple times in the past few weeks and I’m feeling it in my soul. We can’t be expected to bloom 100% of the time. We can’t be expected to run, run, run and never get tired. 🌺 There is a season for everything. Even rest. Especially rest. We need time for reflection and taking a break to really stop and smell the roses so we can be ready to crush our goals in the next season. 🌺 I’m in a season of reflection. Yes, I’m still working on things but not at the same pace I was 3 months ago. I go to bed early, I take time to be present with my kids and husband, and step away from things that cause me too much stress. That way I’ll be ready when it’s time to bloom again. 🌺 What season are you in? Are you resting or getting ready to bloom? Are you in full bloom?
This is how you can find me spending most of my free time. Writing a new blog post, working on my next book, researching body positivity, editing posts, creating pins, writing the same sentence 4 times and then deleting it or sometimes spending too much time on Facebook. 🤷‍♀️ It can be a lot of work sometimes, but I truly love it. Love that adrenaline rush I get from writing and love the idea of helping and inspiring others with my words. 📝 One day I'll have a fancy office with a desk, but until then you'll find me on the couch with my headphones and laptop hustling and loving it. ❤️ What do you do in your spare time?