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I’m a writer living in Utah with my husband, sons Mason and Logan, and pug Willy. I’m an author, procrastinator, sports fan, list-maker,

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I believe you and I are enough and that we are beautiful just the way we are, but it wasn’t always that way. Here you’ll find blog posts about body positivity, resources that have helped me, and people I love who share messages I believe in.

 
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I tried on this swimsuit (damn you Facebook ads) after my son's birthday party. After a day of eating pizza, cake and ice cream. After a day when normally I would've been disgusted with myself about how "fat" I am and how little self-control I had. 😥 But that is the biggest impact body positivity has had on my life. The ability to just live my life without always feeling guilt, without always tearing myself down. Self-love has given me the ability to not let one day of indulgence make me feel like a total failure, and spiral into tears and self-hatred. And it's a feeling I'm never letting go of. 🤗 How would your life look different if you accepted your body instead of hating it?
Happy Friday!!! I’m feeling super blessed today and wanted to share a few things I’m grateful for today. ❤️ 1. Two, healthy little boys that keep me on my toes. 2. The chance to connect with and be inspired by so many amazing people on social media. 3. Parents that always encouraged me to dream big and work hard for those dreams. 4. The salted caramel frosting I made this morning. 5. The ability to take random Fridays off the make cakes for my baby’s birthday. ❤️ What are you grateful for today?!
I almost didn’t post this photo because I wasn’t sucking in and my fat is visible. 🤦‍♀️ But in case anyone else needed to be reminded today, no one is perfect. Bodies have fat and images on Instagram may not always appear as they seem. ❤️ I could choose to post the “perfect” picture but that’s not really serving anyone. It doesn’t do any good to claim I’ve accepted my body and then only post pictures of it looking “skinny”. So instead I’m choosing to be real and honest and true to myself. What are you doing today that’s true to you?
Since I've been working hard on Confessions From Your Fat Friend and don't have a new blog post for you today, instead here is a little teaser from Confessions. ✨ Confession: I Want to be a 10 ✨ I know what constitutes as a “10” is subjective. I know my husband is attracted to me. I know there is so much more to me than just my body. I know I shouldn’t want to be an object to be lusted after. Sitting here, years later, it is easy to see all the rational thoughts I could’ve had back then. It is easy to see how silly and dramatic I was being. ✨ But it was so easy to get sucked into that place because I learned from the time I was a little girl what was considered “attractive” based on the way women’s bodies were portrayed in magazines, on TV, in advertisements; based on the girls at my high school who got dates and the ones who didn’t (raising my hand over here); based on the types of women who got the most attention from men. I did not and still do not fall into “that” category of attractive. ✨ It wasn’t the first and, unfortunately, probably won’t be the last time I will want to be described as a number that has no bearing on my worth as a human being, that I will want to be the object of someone’s desires, that I will let the demeaning comments of others determine how I feel about myself. Copyright © Paige Fieldsted 2019
Can you name 5 things you love about yourself in 30 seconds or less? 💛 Mine are: 1. My hair 2. My boobs 3. My inappropriate sense of humor 4. My writing skills 5. How I snort when I laugh really hard 💛 Why do we have to rack our brains to figure out things we like about ourselves? Why can’t we rattle off our own awesome features like we could do for our friends? Self love sometimes starts with finding just one thing we like about ourselves, it doesn’t have to be physical either, and building from there. 💛 What are your five things?!
I’ve been sitting on this for months now but I’m finally ready to share the cover for Confessions From Your Fat Friend.❤️😍❤️😍 Thank you @cldesignsky for the beautiful cover! And check the link in my bio to get more details and be notified when it’s released! ✨ The fat friend, the chubby sister, the funny one, the curvy one. Whatever you want to call it, every group of friends has one. Unless you’re the mean girls, then fat and friend don’t belong in the same sentence. ✨ I’ve been that friend my whole life. Tall and chubby as a child morphed into tall and extra curvy as an adult. My weight has fluctuated up and down throughout the years, but one thing never changes: I’ve always been the fat one in the group. The token “curvy” girl who can’t share clothes with everyone else and doesn’t even enjoy shopping trips because I need specialty stores to find my size. That’s me. And I have a confession to make—actually, several of them. All the thoughts and feelings I’ve had about being the fat friend for the past 30 years. All the things I’ve never told anyone before. All the things I wish people knew about life as the biggest friend in every group but have been too afraid to tell anyone before now. Some of them might make you laugh or cry or think I’m crazy. Some of them are funny, some of them are painful, but all of them are full of truth and real-life experiences. ✨ I’m Paige, and these are my stories. These are Confessions from Your Fat Friend.