Where I’ve been, what I’m up to and what’s coming next.
Where I’ve been, what I’m up to and what’s coming next.
Here’s a fun fact: when I initially came up with the idea for Confessions I imagined it would be a fiction book, just like my other books.
There are a lot of ways to develop confidence, self-esteem and be comfortable in your own skin. These are my top three and they have nothing to do with the way your body looks.
The words body positivity can elicit different reactions from different people. Some people view it as an excuse to be fat and unhealthy or say it is celebrating obesity. For some people, it is an impossible ideal of being able to love themselves and their bodies 24/7. Others view it as just one more way for people to profit from our insecurities. Then, of course, there is the actual body positivity movement which is rooted in giving people in bigger bodies the chance to be heard, represented and understood for the first time ever.
Some people love it, some people hate it, but for me, body positivity changed my life.
We all have days when we don’t feel our best, when we hate everything we see in the mirror. But it doesn’t have to stay that way for long. Here are five quick ways to turn your bad body image around.
Do body image issues have you feeling bad about yourself? Get an instant dose of motivation from these 27 inspiring body positivity quotes.
The change brought on by motherhood can often result in a sense of shame and hatred about our bodies, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Body positivity and self-love is possible even after you become a mother, even after your body changes.
Summertime often leaves us feeling insecure about our bodies and less clothing, but it doesn’t have to be that way. You can have body confidence and self-esteem, just in time for short shorts and swimsuits.
Can you please stop spreading the harmful idea that women need to look one certain way in order to have a “bikini body” or be ready for summer? Can you please stop spreading the lie that only certain bodies are worthy of wearing bikinis? Can you please stop telling women that in order to have a fun summer we need to shrink our bodies first?
If you have or are struggling with self-love and body positivity, this list is for you. A few simple steps you implement to start loving yourself more right now. A side note before I dive in. Just because it’s simple doesn’t mean it’s easy. None of these things are easy to do, but they aren’t complex or complicated.
The best thing you can do to find self-love is simply choose to love yourself, but that it way harder to do than to say, and hopefully a few of these steps will help make that really hard choice just a little easier.
I didn’t set out to become an advocate for body positivity. It sort of just happened. I loved what I was feeling so much I had to share it with others. And so in May of 2017, I posted my first picture of myself in a swimsuit on Instagram. I started slow but I dreamed everyday for more than two years of starting a blog where I could share my stories and maybe inspire someone else. It took me a long time to work up the courage and belief in myself to start this blog, but now I’ve started I can’t go back. I can’t go back to being quiet. I can’t go back to hating myself.
I used to think that if I had a boyfriend or someone who loved me all my insecurities would go away, I would be filled with confidence from their love and finally stop hating my body. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I have an awesome husband who truly loves me just the way I am and tells me regularly how beautiful I am, but his love and acceptance of me does absolutely nothing to help me love and accept myself.
It seems like being a mom naturally comes with a heaping side of guilt. Guilt about everything from what we feed our babies to leaving them with a babysitter to teaching them how to swear at bad drivers when they are still in diapers. Posts about mom guilt show up all over social media, and in this digital world there are constant reminders that we could be doing better. But why do we all get sucked into the lie of believing guilt naturally comes with being a mom?
No two people are exactly the same. We are all born with different eye colors, hair colors, heights, skin colors, nose shapes, personalities... the list goes on and on. Why then would weight and body shape be any different? Why are we constantly trying to force our bodies into sizes and shapes they weren’t meant to be?
Some days I am better at showing myself love than others, but over the past 3 years, I’ve found several ways that I can practice body positivity and self-love on a daily basis. Things that make me feel good and help remind me why I’m on this journey.
The mind is a powerful thing. The self-fulfilling prophecy is real, and the things we think about and say to ourselves matter. If you say it enough times, your brain will start to believe it is true. Maybe standing in front of the mirror and saying, “You are beautiful,” seems like a complete lie or makes you feel silly or stupid, but it doesn’t matter. Do it anyway.
There is no destination, there is no end point, and I certainly don’t have all the answers. What I do have are some tangible ways that have helped me learn to love and appreciate my body.
I’m not a dietitian, personal trainer, or any kind of health and fitness expert. I’m not a psychologist, although I do have a bachelor's degree in psychology, so that must mean something, right? But I do know a lot about body positivity simply because I’ve walked through the darkness of self-hatred and have come out the other side with a new perspective on body image, self-love, and what it means to have “body positivity.”
So here, in no particular order, are four things people get wrong about body positivity.
I’d like to think I was worried about issues like bullying and social media use and how we are perpetuating bias and prejudice without even realizing it before I had kids, but that would be, at best, stretching the truth. Before I had a tiny human following me around and listening to everything I said I put little thought into how the things I said or did, especially online impacted anyone but me.
Growing a tiny human inside me and pushing him out into the world was the catalyst that helped me see my body in a whole new light. My body grew an entire human being, and I didn’t die when I pushed all nine pounds of him out. If that doesn’t make you appreciate your body, I don’t know what will